Tuesday, July 25, 2006
direct spending proportions: money & friends
Why does being social always have to include eating? I’ve developed this very bad habit of multi-tasking with my visits. I also don’t think I’m alone in this. Somehow along the way, we’ve come to rely on lunches and dinners as combined efforts to get our daily intake of calories while catching up with friends. It’s gotten to the point now that rarely do I hang out with a friend and we Don’t eat! I guess I’m paying attention to it now b/c I’ve started to write down everything I spend, and I’m finding that a good chunk of my income goes to eating out. I then try to rationalize it & say that this meal was an exception, because I hadn’t seen Ari since she switched jobs. And then This meal was a rare occasion b/c it was with my sister, who I rarely get to see one-on-one. And then this other lunch doesn’t really count b/c it’s with my friend Ann who leaves for Ohio next week, so when else would I get to see her?! Every week is starting to look like this though- and while I still maintain that a girl’s gotta eat, there must be some way to do it less expensively, and still spend quality time with the people we love! Does every single one of our social outings now involve food though? Can people not just get together and take a walk, or sit somewhere and talk without spending any money? Before I never paid any attention, and this was all well and good before I started working on my budget, but now that I’m conscious of where my money is going I feel trapped in a societal norm that says you have to spend money to spend time with friends!